"How evidence doth flock to a conclusion!" This was a quote Jim heard at a business class 50 years ago. If we have a belief it seems like proof of that belief keeps popping up. At least we notice those proofs.

We do that when we're miffed at our mate. When we're irritated about any of the issues like money, mess, kids or sex, then all we'll see all kinds of examples of these problems.

If we realize that we have a propensity for seeing what we're looking for, then we can consciously push ourselves to look for the positive instead of more negatives. We can be intentional about turning "Ah ha, there's another reason to be mad." into, "I love this person, let me count the ways."

Bea Strickland